A New Year’s Resolution You Can Actually Keep
As the year comes to close, I can’t help but feel we’ve only reached a midpoint. The midpoint in a movie or screenplay implies a shift in energy or character shift. It propels the story forward and can usually be found right at the halfway mark.
Some call this the year of reckoning or being woke or comeuppance, despite it all, I wonder if it’s simply a year of resilience – of what it took to get here and what it will take to move on.
“Change is about endings and beginnings and the necessary interrelationship between the two.”
-Diana Butler Bass
A consulting firm partner once complimented me on my resilience. I remember thinking he was confusing me with somebody else. When I think back on those early days, I can only think of all the times I came up short: when I checked luggage, cut it too close to the departure time, or got held back when everybody else was promoted.
Slowly, but surely, I learned the game. Adjustment often takes longer than we think. Like a renovation that can only be outsourced to someone you don’t know and not sure you trust. Your vision for that beautiful home is greater than any fear or obstacle. And when it happens, you can hardly tell the difference because you still feel the same.
The new year is a chance to set that vision for better or for worse. For better because the potential is so palpable. For worse because every passing day seems to shed light on our weakness and doubt.
A new year’s resolution you can actually keep is one that is realistic, specific, and forgivable when next year gets the best of you. As my last CEO said, “It’s not about being perfect. It’s about your hit rate.”
And as baseball aficionados know, the best hit rate on the books is 0.3664 which is 37%! So keep this in mind when you happen to cheat on that diet one day.
To help you along, consider the following top five most common New Year’s resolutions from ComRes (2015):
- Exercise more (38 per cent)
- Lose weight (33 per cent)
- Eat more healthily (32 per cent)
- Take a more active approach to health (15 per cent)
- Learn new skill or hobby (15 per cent)
Now consider them edited:
- Practice [walking, yoga, running, foosball] X times a week
- Gain muscle to lift X pounds
- Track what I eat
- Schedule a personal retreat once a month
- Learn how to play the ukulele by joining a club or meetup
Finally write yours as an appointment in your calendar or slip of paper you can carry around in your wallet. Talk about it. Most importantly, welcome it into your life forever to have and to hold from January first forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health…happy new year!